Eight Power Principles for Transformational Leadership

The following are eight of the most important leadership principles I have learned as a senior leader over the past three decades. I have found that each of these leadership principles is vital to the success of any organization, whether it be faith-based or not.

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11 Traits of the personality driven Church

Part I

I have been striving since the early 1980s to help the church follow in “the way of Jesus and the apostles”. That being said, one of the earmarks of the first century apostolic church is how the church edified itself in love (Ephesians 4:16) and was led by a team of leaders whose primary purpose was to equip the church to perform the work of the ministry (Ephesians 4:11,12).

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13 Traits of “Orphan Spirit” Leaders

One of the greatest needs in the Body of Christ is to release the spirit of sonship (Read Romans 8:15) Since both the nation of Israel and the church were modeled after the biblical family structure it’s leaders were supposed to function more as spiritual parents than corporate executives.  The apostle Paul said that we only have few fathers even though we have numerous teachers (1 Cor. 4) those who have not been properly “fathered” in the natural can tend to walk with an “orphan spirit”. Unfortunately, many leaders in the church and marketplace still function emotionally with an orphan spirit even though they have been adopted as sons into the family of Father/God. Leaders with orphan spirits are limited in their capacity to make disciples and maximize their Kingdom purpose.
I write this article to shed light on this vital subject so leaders can become more self aware, and go to the Lord and others to be healed;
The following are 10 traits of Orphan spirit leaders:
1-They are hyper sensitive
Those with an orphan spirit walk around with a spirit of rejection. Hence, they are hyper sensitive and have an unconscious assumption that people are against them. Consequently, they are easily offended and overreact to minor infractions and or experience continual misunderstandings when inter-facing with others.
2-They don’t know how to be a spiritual parent
Pastors and all mature leaders in the body of Christ should first and foremost function as spiritual fathers that can nurture younger believers (I John 2:12-14). When new people come into the church, they intuitively yearn for spiritual parents who will care for them. Many people are hurt because there is no opportunity presented to them in the church for personal nurture and development.First and foremost, the body of Christ needs their leaders to function as spiritual parents, secondarily preachers and leaders.
3-They are always in competition with other leaders
Those with an orphan spirit have never been affirmed by a father; thus, they are always striving to prove themselves to others. Consequently, in their striving, they find themselves in competition with other gifted leaders (including peers not within their organization).
4-They are driven by a search for significance
Due to the lack of affirmation from a father growing up, those with an orphan spirit are constantly striving to succeed. Hence, they rarely rest but are on a quest to elevate themselves amongst others so they can feel good about themselves. Orphan spirit leaders are driven more by personal ambition than by the Holy Spirit. Hence, it can leave much destruction in their wake as their ambition rather than the Holy Spirit is motivating and directing their work.
5-They don’t know how to emotionally connect
Orphan spirit leaders may be very capable at dispensing tasks out to their followers but may by handicapped when it comes to emotional intelligence.  Affirmed sons are better able to connect emotionally with other people since they have already experienced (and developed) an intimate relationship with both their heavenly and spiritual father.
6-They do not feel good about themselves
I have observed that even highly accomplished leaders may have low self-esteem. They desperately try to compensate for this self-disdain by their achievements.  Some of the most successful people I have ever met were laden with self-hatred. All this is hidden behind looking good physically with a great public persona but it comes out in one or more of the traits mentioned in this article
7-They do not know how to treat others
Leaders with an orphan spirit often mistreat and or abuse those under their leadership. This comes out sometimes because of the deep subconscious resentment and anger (from being abandoned by their father) embedded in their soul
8-They do not interpret reality correctly
I have found that those who carry an orphan spirit interpret everything through the lenses of their abandonment, rejection and disappointment. Consequently, they interpret reality differently than other people which causes others they hurt to think these leaders are either liars or delusional.
9-People are objectified to obtain their goals
Leaders with an orphan spirit often use people for their own agenda rather than viewing their leadership assignment as a way to love and empower others.
10-They are always looking for approval and recognition
Those with an orphan spirit have a huge void in their heart that only God can fill. Until and or unless they allow the Lord to heal their woundedness, they will live life seeking the approval of others. Their pain is so great they look for temporary (superficial) relief by getting people to notice them so they can receive their accolades.
11- They do not know how to submit to spiritual authority
Those with an orphan spirit have a very difficult time understanding how to be a son to another father. Hence, they have a difficult time trusting anyone enough to receive correction and truly submit to authority and spiritual leadership. I have found that most “lone rangers” are really people with an orphan spirit.
12- they have a difficult time with their own family
Those with an orphan spirit are so driven they often do not keep boundaries. Consequently, they do not know how to relax and spend quality time with their family. Work and accomplishment are always at the center of their life. Also, because they have never been fathered they do not understand how to be a parent and emotionally connect to their biological and spiritual children. These two issues cause great friction between spouses as well as the alienation of children.
13-They have a difficult time relating to God as their Father
Those with an orphan spirit either view God as a harsh taskmaster or as a distant father who cannot be fully trusted. This is because growing up they experienced abandonment from an authority figure and they transferred this view into their relationship with God.They need to have a spiritual experience with God that permeates their soul and revolutionizes their view of Father God. Also, they need a spiritual father in their life who will represent God to them and restore their soul.

In conclusion, nobody has been fully healed emotionally this side of heaven. Every leader (including me) has deep emotional issues and need continual transformation by God. Hence, there are no perfect marriages, children and leaders. (As well as no perfect churches and or organizations)
May the Lord use teachings like this to open our eyes, help us be self aware, and look for Him to bring people, situations and His word to conform our heart, mind and soul into the image of Jesus the only perfect Son of the Father.

7 Principles Jesus Walked in to fulfill His Purpose

The Lord Jesus Christ was the greatest motivator and example of living a purposeful life that the world has ever seen! He lived by the scriptures since He is the living Word of God (John 1:1), this is why all the greatest books on leadership and management operate with latent biblical principles whether intentional or not.

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Seven Warning Signs Before Leadership Failure

Unfortunately, in every level and realm of life we have all witnessed serious leadership failure! It is no longer a surprise when we read about a high-level pastor, celebrity, sports figure or politician who is disgraced because of ethical or moral failure.

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Avoiding 12 Hazards of Senior Level Leadership

As somebody who has served in executive leadership and with many senior level leaders for many decades, I have observed the following twelve hazards. By hazard I am speaking about a common proclivity all executive level leaders need to monitor, lest they stumble.

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Would the Apostle Paul be Considered a Success Today?

Many if not most scholars consider the Apostle Paul the most important leader in the history of the church with the exception of the Lord Jesus Christ! Paul’s influence cannot be overstated in spite of him never having oversight of a megachurch (he started small house churches in about 30 cities); he wasn’t always very prosperous (often he spoke about being hungry, thirsty and naked as in 1 Cor. 4:11); he wasn’t a celebrity leader (often he was met by mobs of angry people wanting to kill him as in Acts 9, 14:11, 19); he was not very well known during his lifetime outside the cities and regions in which he planted churches (his fame spread beyond these regions after his lifetime through his letters to the churches); and he was diminutive, not necessarily good looking, and may not have been a great orator (2 Corinthians 10:10).

This says a lot about how today’s standards for measuring success stack up against the values of God laid out in Scripture. I have asked myself the question: If Paul were alive today, based on what is mentioned above, would he ever have been a celebrity preacher or featured on the front pages of newspapers and Christian magazines?

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Seventeen Signs You Are Building Your Own Empire But Not God’s Kingdom

Introduction

Ever since the Western and Eastern branches of Christianity divided in the 11th century, some of the greatest fears of the once united Christendom have been realized: fragmentation and division. Even in the 16thcentury, when Martin Luther led the Protestant Reformation, there was hope there would only be a few major expressions of the body of Christ. Never in their wildest dreams did the reformers envision all the denominations and various branches and networks of Christianity that have evolved, which has given opportunity for a spirit of lawlessness, independence and empire building among some insecure but gifted leaders.

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Eleven Ways Preaching Can Hurt More Than Help

The word of God teaches us that the Lord uses the “foolishness” of preaching to save those who believe (1 Corinthians 1:21) and that God reveals His will regarding eternal life through preaching (Titus 1:4). Hence, we can never overstate the importance of preaching to fulfill the purposes of God on the earth. That being said, in my experience of more than 30 years of preaching the gospel, I have found there are times we preachers do more harm than good with our messages.

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7 Principles Jesus Walked in to fulfill His Purpose

The Lord Jesus Christ was the greatest motivator and example of living a purposeful life that the world has ever seen! He lived by the scriptures since He is the living Word of God (John 1:1), this is why all the greatest books on leadership and management operate with latent biblical principles whether intentional or not.

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